Posts tagged ‘working mom’

April 12, 2012

Back into the swing…

of things!

Have finally….FINALLY…been able to come up for some air after what seems like a very hectic and super-fast-like-lightning few months.  After being absent for this long from blogging, tweeting and basically any form of social media (Facebook doesn’t count since its more of a primary mode of communication these days) I think I’m back in action…

Its not that I haven’t thought (often) about posting or have been lacking in inspiration.  There have been many a time where I’ve started and then stopped a post… the commitment-phobe in me didn’t want to get back on track ’til I knew I could make a decent effort at regular posting.

The quick and dirty recap of the past coupla months:

–  I’ve actually been loving being back at work full-time.  I work with a great group of peeps in a fast-paced environment doing something that I enjoy…even if at times it can be a shitstorm super-stressful, for the most part its actually pretty awesome.

– H has been *KNOCK ON WOOD* *throw salt over shoulder* *fingers crossed* having an absolute bizzall at daycare.  He transitioned like a champ and hasn’t looked back since *argh so scared to jinx myself!* So far, he has set a record at the daycare when last week he ate 5 servings of lasagne for lunch. Yeesh.

– The art of juggling career, child, husband, family and friends (oh yeah…and myself!) has me in constant awe of anybody who manages to do so with their sanity intact.  Its a daily miracle if I show up to work in a clean blazer with cookie-free hair.

Well anyways, I come to you (if there are, in fact, any of you left!) with cap in hand asking for forgiveness for my lacklustre blogging activities…hopefully I can be entertaining in the coming months with some fun new style features, H’s many adventures and some insights into the world of a newly working mom.

 

After a hard day at work...big smiles 🙂

July 27, 2011

Bye Bye Mommy-Guilt! Can I Get A Hell Yeah

Couldn't do it!

You may recall a few postings back that our lil family was gearing up for the dive into daycare.  We had done all we thought we needed to prepare, had been fortunate enough to get a spot in our desired facility and I had some awesome job opportunities lined up.  Things seemed amazingly in tune with the universe.

Until we decided that daycare just wasn’t the right fit for our family at this point.  Dun dun dun.

Like with many choices as a parent,  I found myself guilt-ridden no matter which option we took.  Am I the only Mom out there that feltguilty at the drop of a dime?!

Finding a job you love – guilty, you are abandoning your child to the care of others, missing out on his growth

Staying at home to care for baby – guilty, you are not fulfilling your ‘potential’, not bringing in dizzough

Using disposable diapers, feeding store-bought baby food, forgetting sunscreen, not using flash cards, using flash cards.

Guilty, guilty, guilty!

You know what? I say bye bye to guilt!  I’m over you!  I no longer bend the knee to your frown-inducing, brow-furrowing and overall wrinkle-causing ways.

I thought that Baby H would benefit greatly from being around the other babies and having constant socialization.  Which, at the end of the day, he definitely would.  But when it came time to actually being able to part with him at 9 months, I realized I still want this time with him.  He is still a baby and I’ll never get this time back and the time really DOES fly by.

All tired cliches aside, I felt tremendously happy and just lighter when I FINALLY came to the conclusion that:

1) I don’t need to plunge headfirst into a full-time career immediately

2) We don’t need to push Baby H to be any more independent than  he already is

3)  I’m fortunate enough that I can stay at home and spend this time with him

4)  Our family is making the decisions that are the best for us and not necessarily anybody else

But to get there the most important step was to crush the guilt.  Just destroy it.  It wasn’t making any decision-making any easier.

I realize there will be many challenges waiting for me as a SAHM (more fodder for blog posts!)  Life isn’t going to be all baking, shopping, lunches and playdates…

And I am still a strong believer in the positive aspects of daycare – we still have him on the list for when he is older.

But for right now, I just want to spend every waking moment smooshing his cheeks 🙂

And not feeling guilty about it one way or the other!

Amen.

What do you feel guilty/not guilty about? How have you coped (or not) with the guilt?

June 8, 2011

Delirious with Daycare Dilemma

Baby H is confused too

Not really delirious but a little illiteration never hurt anybody.

Baby H is now 7.5 months old…and so the discussions of going back to work, putting him in daycare, doing part-time of both, or being a SAHM have surfaced.

First of all, ‘going back to work’ for me means finding a job and a new career.  After spending the last 7 years running my own business (with trusty partner V) and then selling said business earlier this year, it will be a completely fresh start for moi.  This in itself is a daunting but utterly exciting prospect.  There are so many possibilities running through my head and I definitely feel lucky to be in such a unique position at this point in my life.

That being said, being at home with Baby H has been simply awesome.  Watching him grow and learn something new, literally every day, has been totally amazing.  Seeing his personality blossom into the combination of super sweet, cuddly, and thoroughly mischievious has been a total trip and I wouldn’t have traded this time for anything.

So the next step is to figure out what it is that I want – so much easier said than done. One day I feel like I definitely want to get back into the working world and flex my brain a bit more.  The next I am content to embrace my role as mommy since I know this time only comes around once in a child’s life.

Hubby and I (and Baby H) went to check out a daycare nearby and it was pretty much all we could ask for.  And with Baby H’s strong personality I don’t really feel worried about leaving him per say – he’s pretty independent and vocal about what he wants.  Now its more about figuring out what I’d like to do – and when you’re used to putting somebody else’s needs and wants ahead of your own (cue crying babe here) it’s a bit of an adjustment to go back to examining what YOU need and want.

What did you mamas out there do? Go back to work? Become a full time SAHM?  A combo of both?

Would love to hear!

Happy Hump Day 😉

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