Archive for July, 2011

July 27, 2011

Bye Bye Mommy-Guilt! Can I Get A Hell Yeah

Couldn't do it!

You may recall a few postings back that our lil family was gearing up for the dive into daycare.  We had done all we thought we needed to prepare, had been fortunate enough to get a spot in our desired facility and I had some awesome job opportunities lined up.  Things seemed amazingly in tune with the universe.

Until we decided that daycare just wasn’t the right fit for our family at this point.  Dun dun dun.

Like with many choices as a parent,  I found myself guilt-ridden no matter which option we took.  Am I the only Mom out there that feltguilty at the drop of a dime?!

Finding a job you love – guilty, you are abandoning your child to the care of others, missing out on his growth

Staying at home to care for baby – guilty, you are not fulfilling your ‘potential’, not bringing in dizzough

Using disposable diapers, feeding store-bought baby food, forgetting sunscreen, not using flash cards, using flash cards.

Guilty, guilty, guilty!

You know what? I say bye bye to guilt!  I’m over you!  I no longer bend the knee to your frown-inducing, brow-furrowing and overall wrinkle-causing ways.

I thought that Baby H would benefit greatly from being around the other babies and having constant socialization.  Which, at the end of the day, he definitely would.  But when it came time to actually being able to part with him at 9 months, I realized I still want this time with him.  He is still a baby and I’ll never get this time back and the time really DOES fly by.

All tired cliches aside, I felt tremendously happy and just lighter when I FINALLY came to the conclusion that:

1) I don’t need to plunge headfirst into a full-time career immediately

2) We don’t need to push Baby H to be any more independent than  he already is

3)  I’m fortunate enough that I can stay at home and spend this time with him

4)  Our family is making the decisions that are the best for us and not necessarily anybody else

But to get there the most important step was to crush the guilt.  Just destroy it.  It wasn’t making any decision-making any easier.

I realize there will be many challenges waiting for me as a SAHM (more fodder for blog posts!)  Life isn’t going to be all baking, shopping, lunches and playdates…

And I am still a strong believer in the positive aspects of daycare – we still have him on the list for when he is older.

But for right now, I just want to spend every waking moment smooshing his cheeks 🙂

And not feeling guilty about it one way or the other!

Amen.

What do you feel guilty/not guilty about? How have you coped (or not) with the guilt?

July 19, 2011

Summer Dress Guide

some of the dresses in rotation

Black boyshort-cut panties rejoice!  The thongs and crotchless panties *i kid!* of yesteryear have been relegated to the back of my undies drawer. Now its not because they are any less cute than before, its just that with the insane summer heat we have been having lately in Toronto, all I want to do is wear dresses.  I have always been a strong follower of the fashion meets function mentality and this has only increased since Baby H came along.  For ease, maximum style and minimal effort, you can’t beat a dress.

A few recent requests for advice on where to go for dresses got me thinking about what I look for in my dress wardrobe.

With all the dress shopping I’ve done in the past I’ve come to the conclusion that every girl needs a few to hold her over through the warmer months.

That being said, here is my guide to Summer Dress-ing:

The Everyday Dress Grocery shopping?  Running to the mall and want to look like you’ve had more than a few hours of measly sleep?  Grab this Go-To garment.  Cotton, light, long enough to cover your ass-ets when you bend over to load your shopping into the trunk or pick up baby’s paci.

Reco:

joefresh.ca

gapcanada.com

Patios Watch Out For when you’re lunching with the girls or brunching with the in-laws…You want a cute and pretty something that’s light and easy on the eyes. Have a little fun and grab something flirty.

Reco:

anthropologie.com

kensie.com

Weddings, Showers, Engagements, Oh My! You know you love your friends/fam, but with 10 weddings in a row this summer you want to scream…just a little. However, buck up, because with the lighter wallet comes the fun dresses!  Choose something fun in a bright colour that will stay classic for awhile…and mix and match simple dresses and fun accessories. Oh yeah..and no matter how tempting it is…stay away from white! A little respect for the bride never hurt anybody 😉

Reco:

revolveclothing.com, dress by Tracy Reese

bcbg.com

Pour Me A Stiff One!  For the lazy hazy nights out, get comfy but no need to lower the style factor.  Don a short and hot little number and show off the fact that (if you’re anything like moi) you’ve gotten a babysitter and shaved your legs 😉

Reco:

shopbop.com, dress by Torn

revolveclothing.com, dress by Backstage

Maxin’ and Relaxin’  Maxi dresses are always such a great idea.  I have a bunch but with an active kidlet, I find bending over and scooping him up not as easy wearing one of these – however, for those who are kid-free and/or more skilled than I, these are a great way to ‘maximize’ *har har* style as well as hide your gams if you haven’t had time to apply that self-tanning lotion.

Reco:

hm.com

freepeople.com

Basically you could throw a stick and hit a cute dress – there are just so many options out there and at all different price points.

Choose your dresses wisely and you can rework many of them so that they are interchangeable for different occasions.

Enjoy the fantastic heat wave!

July 6, 2011

Food Truck Eats

before the crowds

pulled pork & brisket Buster Rhinos Southern BBQ

catfish taco and lobster sammie

Canada Day weekend was lotsa fun – nothing like seeing friends & fam and BBQing til you can’t stand the smell of smoking ribs anymore! (if that is at all even  possible).

We checked out the Food Truck Eats event at Distillery District Saturday morning.  We anticipated it drawing a killer crowd so we got there before 11 when the food would start to be served.  Boy were we right!  Instead of the anticipated 500 people showing up, over 3000 eager Torontonians got their eat on.

Awesome weather and one of my fave spots in the city combined with yumminess everywhere made for a great lil saturday morning treat.  We didn’t get to sample everything because lineups became ridonk, but we did get to try the goodies above along with some fan-frickin-tastic grilled cheeses (one of my absolute fave foods) from Gorilla Cheese :  the best IMO being the marscapone, strawberry, hazelnut spread served on raisin toast!!!! Ahhh! Just thinking about it makes me drool.  Also tried the viet sandwiches and some of our group got to sample the gourmet popsicles.

Totally led me to dream about opening up my own truck!  Would make it super cute and troll around the city serving up smiles and some yummies!!! What would YOU serve if you had a gourmet food truck?!

 

July 5, 2011

Changes…(And not the diapering kind!)

I’ve always been pro-change.  Whether making big decisions or small, I see true value in being able to not only accept but to embrace change – after all, its the spice of life!

Our little family has decided that Baby H will be starting daycare soon!  I know, its not a super drastic change for most but for us it definitely will be.  I have had mixed feelings about the whole daycare dilemma but we finally decided that it is the best decision for Baby H.  The more time we spend with him, the more we realize how quickly he is growing and how much he loves to explore his world and learn!

We considered many options – me staying at home (boring for him) hiring a nanny (same, one person constantly, same environment) and even having Gma watch him.  But the thought of keeping him at home in the same environment just didn’t seem fair.  As much as we do get out (two or sometimes even three times a day!) its not the same for him as having the dynamic space with new people and other babies that he would get at daycare.

I have heard so many mums having great experiences with daycare that it seemed the natural thing to do.

That’s not to say it wasn’t a hard decision and that I’m not wracked with nerves about the whole thing!  But with his strong, super sociable personality I am really hoping he will love it!  And that means that for the next few weeks I will be cherishing EVERY moment with him even more than I normally do!  Yes even those times he refuses to nap, pulls my hair, tears my new tops or wants to grab the wires near the TV.

Instead I’ll be focused on the way when he wakes up after a nap he sits up in his crib and babbles until I come to get him.  Or when he calls ‘mama’ when he is bored and wants to do something fun.  Or the way he crinkles up his little nose when he smiles at me if I do something funny.

GAHHHHH! Ok now I’m going to cry!!!

What are your experiences with childcare for baby? Do you stay at home?  Would love to hear from other mamas & papas out there!

 

 

 

 

 

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