I am prefacing this posting by saying that I understand CIO is super controversial and I’m prepared for the inevitable onslaught of comments.
The latest visit to our pead (who by the way, is excellent, thanks for the referral M!) resulted in some new stats for H: 20 weeks old, 19.9 lbs, 27 inches tall and so far, healthy as a bull! Great news and the Hub and I were pretty psyched about it.
Dr. G asked about his sleeping habits and I proceeded to unload on her the strange schedule we have fallen into. Naps during day are fine, however he takes a nap around 6pm when we try to get him to bed in his crib and then is awake until 9 or 10 and has a hard time falling asleep! We have tried moving his bedtime to earlier/later and its always the same deal.
As you other mamas out there know – every baby is different and different things work at different times. Just when you think you have it all figured out, everything changes! It’s a constant moving target as one of my wise friends said once.
H has gotten much better with naps. He will take a decent nap (anywhere from between 40 min to 2 hours) a few times a day in a rough schedule. However he is absolutely addicted to his paci. He doesn’t use it at all during the day but needs it to fall asleep like a crack-fiend needs his next hit. He lunges towards it with the ferocity of a lion attacking his first meal after a winter fast. Sometimes his eyes roll back into his head in a fit of ecstasy once the faux-nipple hits his mouth.
I was one of those people who, before having a babe, swore i’d never let my child use a pacifier. Oh how naive. Once that screaming babe had us at our wits end, Hub stuck a paci in his mouth around week 2 and ever since he has been a suck-monster.
Having said that – he will fall asleep with not too much ado nowadays. The problem comes during the night – he is constantly waking up when paci falls out and needing to be ‘plugged’ in again. This has resulted in cosleeping with moi while Hub sleeps on the couch. He is completely dependent on the paci to get to sleep and to stay asleep.
I’ve read Pantley, Weissbluth, Ferber and countless blogs and forums online. We have tried the No cry method but to no avail – the constant picking up/putting down only aggravated H to the point of hysterics. The patting and shushing didn’t do much to settle him either.
Once Dr. G confirmed that he is healthy, gaining weight fine and yes – let him cry it out – Hub and I have decided to give it a go starting tonight.
I am definitely nervous – the longest we have let him cry without going to him has probably been 5 minutes and it felt like an eternity. We are both loving, caring parents so I don’t want to be accused of being ’emotionally unavailable’ by letting him cry. That is a load of bullcrap IMO. The hope is that we are giving him the tools to be able to soothe himself to sleep which – we hope – will result in him getting a better nights sleep instead of the fitful and restless sleeps he has now.
The goal is not to shut the babe away so that we can have a relaxing evening to ourselves – we are doing this in the hopes that he will be better rested overall. I’m hoping this will carry over into helping him with car rides (currently if his paci falls out while driving he wails like the world is ending, as soon as I pick him up he is all smiles!)
Anyhoo – would love to get your experiences with CIO, sleep training or cosleeping stories!